“Do you guys ever fight” – Part I

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Couple stories part 1 – from Ricarda’s perspective

A question that we get asked very regularly is indeed how we manage to be so happy and harmonic every day. We also get asked very often if we ever fight and of course, I understand where these questions come from.

On Instagram and on this blog, it all looks so easy all the time. Of course, we don’t take pictures of us when we fight – we wouldn’t even have the time then! Instead, we publish harmonic, romantic pictures that we both like a lot. Pictures that show us being in love, happy and relaxed.

All happy-go-lucky?

And indeed, why not? After all, on our channels, we don’t only want to promote our lifestyle, but mainly advertise our love – the only thing that, in the end, is important in life and the only thing that seems missing in this world these days. There is so little love, so many wars and so much pain, so little help from strangers and too few relationships last very long… giving up has become too easy and the next Tinder-date is already waiting around the corner. Or not?!

We often say that, if all people could find love the way we found love, there wouldn’t be any wars or suffering in this world anymore. Our love makes us stronger, more courageous and selfless. Our love challenges us to step out of our comfort zone and to grow beyond ourselves. Day by day, year after year!

Our love makes us stronger, more courageous and selfless…

And yet, there are discussions and also fights in our relationship, mainly based on lack of understanding or misunderstandings. But these days, we fight much less than at the beginning of our relationship, when we first had to learn to understand each other, to learn each other’s language and to be able to interpret the needs and wishes of the other.

Communication is everything, really! It is the most basic but also the most complex thing and if done badly, it can go wrong very quickly. Just look at our current politics. Anyway, at the beginning of a relationship, you first have to learn each other’s language and after that, everything else. Misunderstandings are very often the reason why we fight, but at least, after a few minutes, I have forgotten everything again and all that is left is my unbreakable love for my Max.

Communication is everything, really!

In the end, I had to learn to express myself properly and to think about my words before I utter them. I had to learn that critic isn’t meant to be mean (even though that’s still hard for me). I also had to learn that my habits aren’t normal for everyone and that my opinion isn’t always the center of the universe. I had to learn that there might be other truths than my own and that sometimes, it isn’t important to be right. Discussions mostly end in fights when someone is too stubborn to accept another opinion and so that is something I’m still learning. Not being too stubborn. After all, some discussions on minor things that even turn into fights are so ridiculous that, in the end, we can only laugh about them.

And laughing is really the best cure for any fight. Life is too short to surround yourself with sadness, anger, aggression and all those negative emotions during a fight. Instead, we should always be remember to be thankful for the love, the closeness, the laughing and all the precious moments that only really make sense when shared. And who wants to fight, then?

How about you and your partner? How do you solve your conflicts? I am very much looking forward to your comments!

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3 Comments

3 Comments on “Do you guys ever fight” – Part I

  1. L♥ebe was ist
    Friday July 27th, 2018 at 12:25 PM (5 months ago)

    ein wundervoller Beitrag meine liebe Ricarda – so schön geschrieben und mit so viel Herz :)
    ich kann dir auch nur Recht geben! zum einen möchte man eben nach außen immer die schönen Seiten zeigen, und damit das wofür man einsteht! und was dahin führt, das ist definitiv eine gute Kommunikation! dazu gehört auch Streit, selbst, wenn man ihn nicht auf Insta & Co. propagiert ;)

    liebste Grüße auch,
    ❤ Tina von liebewasist.com
    Liebe was ist auf Instagram

  2. Shades of Ivory
    Wednesday August 1st, 2018 at 09:45 AM (4 months ago)

    Ein super schöner Beitrag :-). Ich glaube, dass Streit zu einer Beziehung dazu gehört und manchmal auch ganz erfrischend sein kann. Es ist nur wichtig, die richtige Balance zu halten und es nicht zu übertreiben.
    Das wichtigste in einer Beziehung, das musste ich schmerzlich lernen, ist wirklich Kommunikation.
    P.S, ihr seid wirklich ein sehr schönes Paar ;-).

    Liebste Grüße
    Jane von Shades of Ivory

  3. Ria
    Monday August 20th, 2018 at 06:51 PM (4 months ago)

    Communication is seriously everything and you can’t make people see your perspective or have empathy. All you can do is try to have it and hope that others are open to being as mature.